Sexual Enlightenment TantraNova Book Trailer

Learn how to:

• Access peace and joy anytime and anywhere
• Feel confident, grounded, and vital in yourself
• Bring pleasure into your daily life
• Draw on your life-giving energy to infuse your wishes

What does sex have to do with world peace?

By Freddy Zental 

These are my thoughts: if sexual energy or life force energy is creative and pleasurable by nature and that creativity and pleasure show up in all areas of our lives i.e. where we live, people were around and the work we do and that science tells us that it's all energy...everything, we're just a denser form of it and that when it manifests as sexual energy it creates life supporting existence ...than learning practices that allow us to consistently tap into this life force energy even in its most subtle forms... then we are better people individually and collectively supporting more fully existence.

What is interesting about the manifestation of sexual energy is that when it is present for us we are more loving, intimately connected, receptive also our chemicals change oxytocin is released, endorphins are enhanced we are very present to the moment in a loving life supporting creative way. All of this happens naturally we don't have to learn how to feel this way.  Next up is learning how to use this energy in an intelligent life supporting way.

Motorcycling Pleasure

To this day, I remember my very first motorcycle: I was 9 years old and my father had a friend who was selling a Honda 90cc. I wanted it so bad. My father said he would get it for me if I would only ride in the backyard.  I knew how to ride a bicycle but a motorcycle was a whole new kettle of fish.  Shifting, throttling and the weight were something new. So I asked my stepmother to help me learn.  Before long I was riding like it was an extension of my right hand.  I had motorcycles off and on through the end of high school. After that I did not ride a motorcycle for 20 years.

Fast-forward to a month ago, I got a brand-new Harley Davidson Road King classic 2012. Wow!!  I always loved motorcycle riding and now I could ride a Harley-Davidson whenever I wanted – of course the weather permitting given that I live in Chicago!!! With the Harley I was definitely taking it up a notch.  It is a beautiful bike. It seems to me everyone who I introduce my bike to gets this inspired look in their eyes.  I totally get it… when riding my motorcycle I am reconnected and present in the moment: the experience of leaning into a curve, the wind in my face, and the road ahead.  It feels like a meditation of sorts, a total sense of freedom!   Sometimes at stoplights, I find myself talking to people in cars with the windows down. Rarely an opportunity I would have driving in my car.   

In short, when riding my motorcycle I feel free, inspired and present in the now. And many who see me riding are reminded of a sense of inspiration and joy … hallelujah!  Metaphorically speaking, I’d say find YOUR motorcycle – whatever that may be for you – and ride it!!

Sexual Intelligence Part II

Continuing the conversation on "Sexual Intelligence"...This is an interesting time in history when science and spirituality are saying the same thing...We are one!  It's all energy...Energy manifests in many different ways the unique thing about sexual energy in its physical manifestation is that its creative and pleasurable.

Creativity and pleasure show up everywhere in life where we live, the people that we surround ourselves with, or the work we do. Learning practices of sex consciousness and focus working with sexual energy, creativity and pleasure start showing up as a default way of being in the simple process of living itself.

Intention: The intention of bringing something new into your life i.e., love, money, happiness, requires a lot of areas of conscious focus and awareness.  In the practice of sex consciousness in the TantraNova  approach we become more intimately familiar with feelings, emotions and energy as it manifests in its creative life force form or "Sexual Intelligence", thus creating more possibility in manifesting one's intentions in this physical reality.

Continuing to develop your observer or witness state of mind  is the first critical step in accessing Sexual Intelligence.   A meditation practice that resonates with you is  important. There are many meditation practices - active, passive,  social and sexual. Sexual meditation is probably the most difficult one to master because we are so automated  to become completely lost and swept up in the pleasure and drama.  Nothing wrong with pleasure however being conscious requires practice. One of the aspects that makes sexual meditation practice so powerful  is that physically, chemically, emotionally and spiritually we become more intimately connected, loving and vulnerable.  This allows a magnified accessibility to the unconsciousness that we bring as a backdrop to creating our intentions in this physics.

To learn more about sexual-spiritual connection and a greater  intimate access to your dreams, intentions, love, intimacy  and creativity,  please contact TantraNova Institute.

What’s Happiness got to do with it ... women, life and pleasure? Try the Tantric Approach!!!

The illusiveness of happiness! What a rat race to find it and then if you were lucky to get it how to keep it. Marcus Buckingham’s research and findings in HuffPost based on his paper "The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness" inspired me to reflect on my own progression in life to happiness and on the happiness of the hundreds of women I have worked with over the past 10 years as an intimacy and relationship coach.

What’s happiness anyway? The older I have grown the happier I have become. And that does not just have to do with that I now own a business, making a difference in the lives of women and men, and being in the most inspiring relationship with my Beloved and business partner. That’s rather a result of something else.

After all happiness is a state of being! And how did I arrive at that state of being? For me this occurred through two major life experiences that awoke me to that state: One experience had to do with “accepting “what is” at the present moment and declaring that I choose to be happy which I learned through Buddhist meditation at Thich Nhat Hanh’s Plum Village. That philosophy is totally in line with what Buckingham identifies in his findings: “The women who could answer positively to the questions [regarding happiness] …, simply decided that they were going to be happy. They made that choice.”

The other experience had to do with “weaving” or Tantra. O.K. – what did I learn about weaving? It was about reintegrating my feminine with my masculine or the yin with the yang that is frequently out of balance for women living in this time and age. Most of us have learned to develop our masculine side that is required to compete and make it in the world. Great capacity to have! However, if my feminine got dwarfed because of the dominant orientation towards achieving in the worldly dimension I am just not whole any longer.

Here is what Tantra-Kundalini.com says about the feminine and masculine: ”According to the philosophy of Tantra, the entire universe is a manifestation of pure consciousness. In manifesting the universe, this pure consciousness seems to become divided into two poles or aspects, neither of which can exist without the other.

One aspect, Shiva, is masculine, retains a static quality and remains identified with unmanifested consciousness. Shiva has the power to be but not the power to become or change. The other aspect, Shakti, is feminine, dynamic, energetic and creative. Shakti is the Great Mother of the universe, for it is from her that all form is born.

According to Tantra, the human being is a miniature universe. All that is found in the cosmos can be found within each individual, and the same principles that apply to the universe apply in the case of the individual being.”

The aspects of feminine and masculine show up in women just as they do in men. However, they are not merely to be considered as gender qualifications. To illuminate the principles further take a look at this chart and locate yourself on the right or left in various areas of your life: family, intimate relationship, work and career, body, hobbies, etc:

Masculine / Feminine
Creative Focus / Creative flow
Purposeful presence / Open and connected
Desire for truth / Desire for sourcing and sustaining
Oriented towards vision and goals / Oriented towards love and care
In one’s mind and focused / In one’s emotions & flow
Emotion of compassion / Emotion of trust & gratitude
Looking at life from the outside / Looking at things from within
Fear of failure in life / Fear of rejection & loss of love
Work before intimacy / Intimacy before work
Doing Being / Giving Receiving

Reintegrating the feminine with the masculine, the spiritual with the sensuous, the body with the soul, the giving with the receiving wholeness shows up. Experiencing wholeness is the source of feeling pleasure, joy and yes, HAPPINESS!!! It’s up to each woman to return to that wholeness. The tantric practice provides a guide to that wholeness as shown by transformative shifts in many women who have worked with me here at TantraNova.

Looking forward to your comments and thoughts abut this topic of happiness! Elsbeth

Keep your Yoni Alive and Well!

This blog is dedicated to women – and the men who care about them!
 

It’s Dr E here. I’d like to introduce you to the “Yoni Egg” today. Yoni is a Sanscrit word that means “Sacred Space” and stands for a woman’s sexual center. The sound of “Sacred Space” expresses much more the sense of honoring and cherishing than our clinical term vagina does.

Building on the “Want more joy, pleasure and peace in your life and relationships?” blog from last week we want to continue emphasizing the relevance of having strong pelvic floor muscles. And here is where the Yoni Egg comes in: It allows you to enliven and keep your Yoni alive. It assists in developing and maintaining a strong, vital PC Muscle, which is paramount to a healthy pelvic floor. 

By strengthening your PC Muscle with your Yoni Egg inserted while you use the breath to move the energy through your body (see blog from 4/1/08 for guided practice) you will: 

1. Feel more grounded and centered in yourself

2. Be more in tune with your sensuous capacity

3. Massage your Yoni from the inside

4. Increase your flow of sexual hormones

5. Develop stronger orgasms

6. Heighten the responsiveness of your G-Spot

7. Maintain healthy reproductive organs

8. Prevent incontinence in later years

9. Experience pleasant aliveness in your feminine center

You already can tell that training your Yoni muscle with the aid of the Egg creates a whole new octave of a sense of groundedness in your feminine being, of expanded sensual experience and ultimately sexual ecstasy with sensations that are deliciously pleasurable. 

The Yoni Egg is made from rose quartz - a polished gemstone. It comes in a sari pouch in various colors with instructions. You insert the Egg covered with some lube to make the passage smooth. Once the Egg is inside your Yoni it’s being held in by the vaginal sphincter muscle. The Egg cannot disappear in your womb – the tiny opening of the cervix won’t allow for that. So you can rest assured that the Egg stays well enveloped in your Yoni space. You can leave it inserted for an hour or a whole day – as I do at times – depending on your comfort. Keep squeezing and releasing every so often. Once you want to take the Egg out just press with your pelvic floor muscle like you do during a bowel movement. It’ll flop out – catch it in your hand.

For further information and questions email us at tantranova@tantranova.com. To purchase a Yoni Egg call 773-525-5006. www.TantraNova.com

For TantraNova Women’s programs go to Women's Seminar & Class Series

Train Your Love Muscle and Ground Yourself!

Here is one of the key secrets: Connect with your life force energy and ground yourself in your pelvic floor. It’s the place of the base center or root Chakra. 

Activating your pelvic floor muscles (the Pubococcygeus or Love Muscle) coordinated with the breath will do wonders for you. Fear of survival, worrying about the future, being afraid of not being good enough reside as constricted energies in the first Chakra. When we release those energies we come back to the ground of our being. 

The following practice will assist you in this process by increasing the flexibility and strength of your pelvic musculature, releasing tension in the sphincter muscle and activating your life force energy that emanates from the base of the spine. 

Sit in a comfortable position on a chair or meditation cushion – close your eyes.

• In order to locate the PC muscle, squeeze your pelvic floor as if you were holding back the urination. Then release the muscle. Repeat this for a few times and then relax the muscle – all the way 
• Now, take in a deep breath filling your belly like a big balloon. On the exhalation visualize sending the breath down and out of your butt into the cushion of your chair 
• Now take a deep breath in filling your belly, chest and all the way up to the top of your head. On the exhalation squeeze and release your PC muscle for several times to the bottom of your exhalation 
• Then breathe in filling your torso from the bottom all the way up to the top of your head – if you can keep squeezing and releasing your PC muscle on the inhalation do so 
• On the exhalation speak out loud while working your PC muscle: Squeeze – release, squeeze release, and so forth until you arrive at the bottom of your exhalation 
• Keep going with this practice for a total of 6 inhalations and exhalations
• Then relax the muscle all the way and continue in your own rhythm of breathing 
• With your eyes closed notice how you are feeling in the area where you were squeezing and releasing 
• Upon completion open your eyes

Enjoy and have fun with it!!!

Please click HERE to get access to the audio of the PC Practice.

 

Gifting - The Giving of Pleasure

This is the season for giving. I (Elsbeth) have been reflecting on the meaning and customs of giving in our culture. I experience this time often as a bitter–sweet event. However recently I declared to myself to be joyous, at peace and delighted in gifting without rushing around and hectic moments.

So, when Freddy Zental asked me for private time together – a time when we don’t work or discuss business, a time that is truly for the two of us alone, I accepted with delight. We set aside Saturday morning to create a Healing Ritual together.

As many of you know from working with us in seminars and private programs, feeling connected and intimate originates from a deep listening to oneself and one’s partner. The Healing Rituals we practice and teach allow cultivating that kind of listening. One crucial dimension for this listening is the establishing of the giver and receiver roles.

I prepared myself for the ritual by choosing to be the giver with the intention to support Freddy Zental further in his recovery from surgery. Setting up the room, getting his favorite lotion and crèmes, turning on the heating pad for sustained warmth underneath the sheet (after all we do live in Chicago!) and drawing the shades for soothing light I felt anticipation and joy.

Then Freddy Z arrived and received – so appreciative and open. His body could let go, his energies could flow and his Being dropped into a state of peace and pleasure. It was truly a healing and flowing experience, a re-awakening of his body, heart and spirit.

Yes, this kind of gifting we both treasure. And mutually we agreed to make time for more of these kinds of Holiday presents.

For further info on TantraNova and to learn more about the Healing Rituals and Practices go to http://www.tantranova.com

Tantra and Men

Zental here – I am bringing more light today to the relevance of Tantra for men. Tantra is essential in assisting us men in coming back to wholeness and connectedness with our heart, soul and consciousness. One of the fundamental practices for men in Tantra is learning how to separate ejaculation from orgasm. In developing more capacity in conscious breathing, muscle awareness and focus we can begin to unravel the collapse of love, romance, lust, shame, fear and guilt… just to name a few emotional collapses we have with our sexual energy.

In the beginning when I was first introduced to Tantra at the age of 15, the thing that attracted me most was being able to last longer. As I grew older and my understanding and experience in falling in and out of love became broader I became more conscious of owning my own pleasure and feelings which gave me much more freedom in experiencing and letting go. When I am in the sexual energy I am the most open, vulnerable, receptive and loving as I will ever experience in this physical form. Once I developed more capacity in consciousness, focus and my “Observer” or “witness” while in this life giving energy I was able to free myself from the bounds of my unconsciousness, ego attachment and my survival mind. I also got to see and let go old stories and interpretations that no longer served me. In the process I have recognized the intelligence of sexual energy as indicated in creativity, joy and pleasure and how this flows into other areas of my life that seem completely unrelated to sexual energy.

Through practicing Tantra as a man I have discovered more capacity in sinking into that vulnerable, receptive and loving state that happens while being present to my sexual energy. This state of being can be described as “feminine” and the recognition of it has assisted me to be more fully grounded in my “masculine”. This in turn has created more space for my partner to dance in her feminine.

Share your thoughts with me: What has your experience been with the “feminine” and “masculine”. http://www.tantranova.com