We want to share an article with you today that we produced for Internet magazines last spring. It’s all about increasing intimacy – here we go:
When you fell in love with your partner or spouse you probably felt a strong intimate connection that made your heart hum. But as the years roll by you may be finding that the demands of your careers, children and parenting are leaving you less time for each other and the connection that brought you together in the first place. You’d like to get it back but you may not be sure how to accomplish that goal.
The good news is that increasing the love and intimacy you share with your partner is not as difficult – or even time consuming – as you might think. In just minutes a day you can connect with your partner, experience more passion than perhaps ever before and truly feel as one. All you need to do is make the following practices part of your daily lives.
No. 1: Touch Each Other’s Heart Through Heart-on-Heart Connection. At least once a day perhaps when you awaken, make it a habit to place your hand over your spouse’s heart while they do the same. Concentrate on synchronizing your breathing. This simple gesture will soothe both of you and make you feel calm and connected.
No. 2: Kiss to Awaken Endorphins. Many couples miss out on the pleasures of daily kissing but once you know that kissing releases the feel-good chemicals known as endorphins you’ll want to lock lips more often. Kissing the upper lip is especially effective at endorphin release.
No. 3: Eye-Gaze into Heaven. When was the last time you looked deeply into your lover’s eyes? For best results, gaze into your partner’s left eye, which corresponds to their right brain hemisphere allowing for feeling and experiencing versus thinking and analyzing. As you gaze into each other’s left eye you will feel a deep connection with your partner’s soul.
No. 4: Give Yourself a Jolt. The human body runs on electricity and if we are mindful we can align ourselves with our partner’s energy. To do so, sit facing each other with your chests and bellies touching. Breathe together as you deepen your connection and increase your loving feelings.
No. 5: Create Fun and Laughter. Humor and intimacy go hand in hand. Take time to experience all the funny things that happen to both of you every day but don’t stop there. Consciously build fun and laughter into your lives by dancing and singing together and, if you like, making on-the-spot rhymes up for each other – your own personal version of hip-hop.
We encourage you to incorporate as many of the above practices in your lives as possible and expand upon them as you feel more comfortable. By doing so, you will find you are less stressed, burned out and disconnected. Best of all, you will exchange those negative feelings for those of peace, loving energy and inspiration.
Good luck!
Life partners and beloveds, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and
