My first exposure to sexual energy happened when I was five years old. I was watching cartoons early one Saturday morning when I heard noises coming from my parent’s bedroom. Being a curious five-year old I went to investigate. When I opened the door, I saw my father on top of my mother grunting and making noises, then the roles switched and my mother was on top of my father grunting and making noises. I had no idea what they were doing. Suddenly they saw me and sat up. They invited me to sit on the edge of the bed and my father explained to me that they were making love. He told me that this would be something I would be very interested in when I got older. He then told me that they loved me very much and asked me to leave and close the door.
This first exposure to sexual energy happened for me with love, caring and dignity. To this day I am left with a comfortable and positive feeling about it. These early experiences are often what shapes us and lays the foundation for our subconscious wiring.
Do you remember your first exposure to sexual energy? Was it pleasant or unpleasant? How does it impact you today? Share your experience with me!
Through my work with couples and individuals here at TantraNova I have found that shame, fear and guilt – usually based on early stories and decisions we made about ourselves – prevent us from opening up to our life force energy that is sexual in nature. This energy can show up in a non-aroused or aroused state. Of course there are many gradations of how we can experience that wonderful energy. When I work with clients and they start to learn to open up to their sexual energy they usually feel more connected and intimate, they become more vulnerable and open to their own creative Self. Learning to use the breath in bringing focus to our sexual energy we are able to channel this life-giving wonderful nectar throughout our physical, emotional and spiritual body. And thus, we become more aware and conscious of our life force energy.
There are few approaches and paths that include and draw consciously on the wisdom of sexual energy. Think about it, this energy manifested long before we even had any inkling of E=MC². From the time humans first existed we have been able to pro-create using our sexual energy. Over the past hundred years or so, we have been able to re-create with sexual energy – thanks to the development of contraceptives. Today through focus and the breath we can learn to harness the power of our sexual energy to co-create our lives in partnership. In my life and relationship this co-creation shows up as a dance of equals where love, intimacy and growth are fueled by that original source of life force energy.
Please share your own experiences with me. If you have any questions relating to this post feel free to leave them for me to respond.
Until next week,
Freddy Zental
