Rediscovering Your Feminine Self

The spirit of femininity is generous, graceful, nurturing, supportive, sensitive, intuitive, and oriented towards love and care.  Despite all of these wonderful attributes, feminine energy, especially as it pertains to sexuality, has been suppressed, condemned, and vilified on a global scale for thousands of years. It is no wonder, then, that so often we associate shame, fear, and guilt with sex and sexuality.  Through reawakening our feminine energy, we can learn to celebrate our femininity in all its forms and bring greater joy and intimacy into our lives and with ourselves.

Reintegrating our spiritual and sexual selves is an important first step in rediscovering our feminine self.  Our culture’s separation of these two aspects may be an ill-conceived view and therefore counter to fostering well-being, health, and joy in our bodies, hearts, and spirits. When we bring conscious awareness to the integration of the sexual with the spiritual and the spiritual with the sexual, we return to a sense of wholeness within.

In order to allow healing to occur, we at TantraNova have developed a particular healing practice for the woman that provides her with a rediscovery of her sexual-spiritual connection by teaching her to clear blocks, residual memories, and views that no longer serve her. The word healing is used here in terms of letting go of what keeps her from being fully integrated and whole. She might get in touch with experiences from earlier times in her life that might trigger an emotional process. Energetic blocks, memories, or unpleasant feelings that may have been stored as residual memories on the cellular level of the yoni or vaginal walls may be released so healing can occur and the experience of unity, joy, and harmony within herself can show up. 

When Kristy came to TantraNova, she had been afflicted by gynecological complications such as recurring yeast infections for many years, which made intercourse extremely painful. She shared that she felt like a “broken” woman and wanted to explore ways in which she could express her sexual self despite her physical concerns. She entered the TantraNova woman’s healing workshop feeling nervous, uptight, scared to open up, and afraid to trust. When it came to choosing a partner for the homework healing practice, she partnered with a most supportive and attentive man. She experienced him as patient and felt that she could slowly open up and begin to trust.

The most impactful experience of the healing ritual was that for the first time Kristy felt her male partner was simply present with and for her, absent of any agenda of his own or expectations of her. Being in this space of acceptance and presence, she could let go of the guilt and shame connected with her yoni and release her sadness and frustration with the pain she had been experiencing. Following the workshop, Kristy felt a sense of aliveness, an inner groundedness, and a new found confidence she had not had before. To her great surprise, a lot of her physical pelvic pain subsided along with the frequent headaches that had plagued her.

Learn more about the rediscovery of your feminine and more at www.tantranova.com.

About Dr. Elsbeth Meuth
Dr. Elsbeth Meuth is the co-founder and director of the TantraNova Institute in Chicago. She is an internationally renowned workshop leader, relationship and intimacy coach, and a certified Tantra yoga teacher. She is the co-author of Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy (January 2014) and co-produced with her partner, Freddy Zental Weaver, the bestselling DVD series Creating Intimacy & Love. They were featured on Showtime’s documentary series Sexual Healing and the Emmy award-winning NBC show Starting Over.

The Discovery of Sexual-Spiritual Connection - DVD II REVIEW

This DVD offers intimate instruction to take your Tantra skills to the next level. In it, you are invited inside Freddy Zental’s and Elsbeth’s sacred space as they lead you through the women’s and men’s healing rituals. With their shared smiles and sighs, these two partners use massage, eye gazing, communication, acupressure, and breathing to awaken the goddess and sustain masculine energy together. So often in today’s culture spirituality and sexuality are separated, yet when they are combined and connected, infinite potentials can be reached for the individual and the couple.

The Discovery of the Sexual Spiritual Connection is a gateway into uniting the second and sixth chakras (and everything in between) in order to experience the sexual spiritual connection. This video illustrates what is possible for the individual and the couple as they bring their sacred and sexual beings together. 

In this “take home Tantra” approach, the DVD offers his and hers healings that enable each partner to connect with their own spiritual being while opening to their sexual life force energy. It builds on TantraNova’s Creating Intimacy and Love DVD putting TantraNova’s foundational practices of breathing, energy awareness and movement, communication and self-expression into action. 

Energetic blocks, memories or unpleasant feelings that are held physically in the yoni and may no longer serve are being released or healed. The healing allows the woman to work with and process anything that comes up with a compassionate partner. During her “healing ritual”, the woman is connecting to herself, in the present moment, supported by her partner who holds space for whatever comes up during the ritual. The man’s healing offers techniques for sustaining sexual energy and moving the energy up to the heart chakra and beyond by using the breath. This practice can create awareness and empowerment for the man as he is connected with his sexual-spiritual energy throughout his day and not just in a sexual encounter. 

These healing practices offer a model for creating a sexy-zen state of being for both partners as they give and receive. Freddy Zental and Elsbeth’s intimate moments caught on tape illustrate the bonding, connecting, and enlightening power of tantric healing and practices.

Freddy Zental's Breakthrough Performance

Zental here. About a month ago Elsbeth and I had the honor of being presenters at the Eighth Annual Tantra Practitioners Conference in Sedona, Arizona. We opened the conference with a presentation on how we came to create TantraNova, why we do what we do and with sharing video clips from the Showtime Special “Sexual Healing” which we were a part of in 2006. The audience was so appreciative and loved what they saw happening for the couples on the show. If you haven’t seen the clips yet please go TantraNova on "SHOWTIME". It’s a wonderful illustration of what shows up when we drop into our hearts and connect with each other while we bring consciousness and focus to our sexual energy and being.

For the close of the conference I had the privilege of performing TantraNova Man: An Experiential Show , my one-man show. I experienced a huge breakthrough in my performance: This was the first time that I did the show in front of an audience of 200 people on a hi-tech professional stage and the first time traveling with the show outside of Chicago. Even if I say so myself … I felt it was the best performance I had ever given. My singing, presence, dramatic expression and moment–to- moment improv were at an all time high! I reached a whole new level … receiving a standing ovation. I am thrilled and excited!

So … perhaps I will be in your town soon doing the TantraNova Man show. Or if you are planning a visit to Chicago please join us on July 19^th for my next show there. 

Until then … Love and Light, 

Zental

For further information and questions email us at tantranova@tantranova.com or go to www.TantraNova.com

A Story on Intimacy

Did you, by any chance, listen this past week to Terri Gross’ interview with Peter Sagal, the host of the NPR news quiz Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me? Lately, Peter has spent many an hour going to strip joints, a swingers club, a porn-movie set and casinos — among other dens of what some call iniquity. All research, of course, for his new project, The Book of Vice. He wanted to get a perspective on the indulgences of others, and report back to the rest of us.

The book reminds me of a time in the early days of TantraNova when Freddy Zental and I were contacted by a couple that runs annual swinger conventions serving hundreds of couples from all across the US. We agreed to offer a workshop and thought teaching Tantra to swingers would be a piece of cake because – so we thought – inhibitions, embarrassment or fear regarding one’s body, nudity, etc. were let go of.

Our workshop was attended by some thirty couples and we taught them about the TantraNova basics as well as the healing ritual for the woman. Halfway through the workshop we invited the participants and giving them a choice to do sexual healing work with their partner. Half of the couples stayed on while half of them left.

In the evening, on the way to the dinner ball, a couple came up to us. The woman introduced herself and her husband who had been married for 12 years and swinging for eight. She placed her right hand on Freddy Zental’s arm, looked at us and said: “You two were fabulous. I liked so much what you were doing with us in the workshop. However, I could not stay when you asked us to do sexual healing work with my husband because I was afraid of what I might see if I gazed into his eyes.”

My jaw dropped. It took me a while to compose myself. I looked at her and was wondering about all that sexual freedom and expression she had been involved in though being truly intimate and deeply connected with her husband was something to be afraid of?

Share your experiences and thoughts on the topic of intimacy. Write to us at tantranova@tantranova.com. http://www.tantranova.com